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|| DID YOU
Are you in a HEALTHY relationship?
- Does my partner listen when I say no to sex?
- Does my partner support my suing birth control?
- Is my partner kind to me and respectful of my choices?
If you answered YES to these questions, it is likely that you are in a
healthy relationship. Studies show that this kind of relationship leads
to better health, longer life, and helps your children.
Are you in an UNHEALTHY relationship?
- Does my partner mess with my birth control or try to get me pregnant
when I don't want to be?
- Does my partner refuse to use condoms when I ask?
- Does my partner make me have sex when I don't want to?
- Does my partner tell me who I can talk to or where I can go?
If you answered YES to ANY of these questions, your health and safety
may be in danger.
Is your BODY being affected?
- Has my partner given me an STI (sexually transmitted infection)?
- Am I afraid my partner would hurt me if I told him I had an STI
and he needed to be treated too?
- Have I hidden birth control from my partner so he won't get me
- Has my partner ever made me afraid or physically hurt me?
If you answered YES to ANY of these questions, you may be at risk
for STI/HIV, unwanted pregnancies and serious injury.
Pressure to get Pregnant?
Has my partner ever:
- Tried to force or pressure me to become pregnant?
- Told me he would leave me if I didn't get pregnant?
- Told me he would have a baby with someone else if I
didn't get pregnant?
- Hurt me physically because I didn't agree to get pregnant?
If you answered YES to ANY of these questions, you may be at high
risk for an unplanned pregnancy.
Your partner may see pregnancy as a way to keep you in his life and keep
connected to you through a child--even if that isn't what you want.
If your partner pushes you to have sex, messes with your birth control or
refuses to use condoms:
- Talk to your health care provider about birth control that you can
control that your partner doesn't have to know about (examples--
IUC, Emergency Contraception (EC), Depo, Implanon).
- Talk to someone you trust about what is going on with your partner.
- Ask your provider about local and national programs to help women
struggling in their relationships with control or abuse.
If you are being hurt by a partner it
is not your fault. You deserve to be
safe and healthy.
- Call 911 if you are in immediate danger.
- Prepare an emergency kit in case you have to leave suddenly with:
money, checkbook, keys, medicines, a change of clothes, and
- Talk to your Family PACT provider who can provide a private
phone for you to use to call for help.
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Children, Youth and Families, U.S.
Department of Health and Human Services
and The William and Flora Hewlett
All national hotlines can connect
youto your local resources and
For help 24 hours a day, call:
National Domestic Violence Hotline
TTY 1-800 787-3224
Teen Domestic Violence Hotline
Sexual Assault Hotline
To find a Family PACT provider
or go to www.FamilyPACT.org